How to Attract a Bored Spouse

Slide #1: A frequent complaint is, "My spouse has lost all interest in me."

Slide #2: The truth is they have lost interest in your relationship not you.

Slide #3: The first step to igniting interest in your relationship is to discover which emotional needs are going unmet. (Thanks to His Needs, Her Needs, by Willard Harley)

Slide #4: Ask your wife if she's missing your conversation, affection, financial security, honesty and openness, or family involvement.

Slide #5: Ask your husband if he's missing your sexual fulfillment, recreational companionship, staying attractive, domestic support, or respect.

Slide #6: Take your spouse's top missing emotional need and go to work on it immediately.

Slide #7: Enlist their advice and guidance in how best to meet that need.

Slide #8: Meeting one another's emotional needs will bring attraction back to your marriage.

Slide #9: "My lover spoke and said to me, "Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, and come with me. See! The winter is past; the rains are over and gone." Song of Solomon 2: 10-1